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How To Have A Tough Conversation With Your Teenager Part 1
June 1, 2021

Sometimes when your teen is walking through something really hard, you may need to have a difficult conversation with them.

This Online Parenting Class video discusses How to Have a Tough Conversation with Your Teenager.
It will equip you with some ideas of how to open this type of discussion.

You may be questioning if the time is right to share part of your own story of pain to encourage them. We all have things in our past that we keep hidden from our children until the Lord reveals when it is appropriate to share. Even the Lord keeps things hidden and chooses when it’s appropriate to reveal things that will be beneficial to His children: ͞"It is the glory of God to conceal a matter …" (Prov. 25:2).

Consider what you hope the outcome will be by sharing the information. What will they take away? Is it the appropriate (or necessary) time? Is sharing the information more about making you feel better, possibly to relieve suppressed guilt?

If sharing this information is going to help your teenager avoid walking down a painful path that you’ve already walked, it might be the right time to share.

Before you do, take time to write down exactly what you’re wanting to say, word for word. Doing so gives you a framework to follow to guard against deviating from the main purpose and divulging information you really don’t need to talk about.

Secondly, consider sharing with a trusted friend exactly what you hope to say. A trusted friend may be able to identify pitfalls and traps in the conversation that you are unable to see clearly because you’re too close to the situation. This is the ͞"it takes a village͟" concept in action. Parenting is a team sport, and having a friend to pray for you, to help you discern what is best and to wait in the wings as back-up is vitally important.

Rehearse the conversation out loud so what you say to your teen will come out exactly how you’re wanting it to. Use this time to refine what and how you’re going to share. Though you won’t be able to predict how they will react or respond, you’ll be prepared as much as possible.

Finally, remember that this conversation is not about you and your past. It’s about your child. Prayer is powerful and effective, please let us know how we can be praying for you and your family. 


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